“Anger dwells in the bosom of fools.” – Albert Einstein
Now everyone gets angry, it happens to us all. And there are a lot of times where most of us do stupid things in our anger or while we are angry. But that’s a mistake, and if you’re spiritual, it’s also a sin. Don’t believe me?
25 Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body. 26 “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 and do not give the devil a foothold.
There’s your proof.
So what exactly is anger? Is it that feeling of rage you get when someone cuts you off on the highway? Is it that feeling of annoyance you feel when your loved one has ate the last of that sandwich in the fridge that you were saving for when you got home? Is it that feeling of readiness and anticipation for someone to make a sideways comment so that you can quickly and assertively put them in their place?
Anger is all of that and more. Everyone knows that a lot of the time when we are angry, we say and do things that we don’t really mean. Then after the situation has cooled down, we have to go back and right our wrong and while there is absolutely nothing wrong with fixing something we’ve done damage to, wouldn’t it be great it just be great to not have something to go back and fix in the first place? Well that happens by keeping our cool. I know that’s way easier said than done, but we have to realize within ourselves that sometimes getting angry is the stupidest thing that we can do in a situation.
When we act in anger, we allows ourselves to become something we end up ashamed of. What’s one of the first things people say after they’ve messed up — after they’ve said “I’m sorry” of course? “I don’t know what came over me” or “It was a mistake, I never meant for that to happened.” After we have messed up, there is that feeling of guilt. That feeling of embarrassment that makes us hope to God that we never make the same mistake again.
But you’re supposed to let your anger out, right? I mean, you can’t just let it fester inside of you; then at the wrong moment you end up giving birth to your anger and the next thing you know you are yelling at someone who didn’t even deserve it. The answer is yes, you are supposed to release your anger, but it has to be done in such a way that doesn’t offend others and will prevent you from having to apologize for taking out your problems on an innocent soul.
So how do you release your anger in a constructive manner? The Bible has the answer for that, too.
New International Version (NIV)
15 “If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over.
Now that does not mean that you approach them while yelling and seemingly ready to fight. It means that you approach them maturely, calmly expressing your feelings AND being able to listen to their feelings about the situation as well. It’s all about maturity. The key to any successful conversation starts with letting go of the need to be right and being open to the viewpoints and feelings of others. You can’t expect any problem to be solved correctly if you have no idea what you want the end result to be. YOu have have to consider the big picture. You especially can’t expect the problem to be solved if you do not have the right attitude. Solving the problem means that everybody is happy and feel good, not just one person. In the words of Lauryn Hill — “how you gon’ win when you ain’t right within?” Unh unh, come again.