Read a couple of good books on the differences between men and women and also one on the differences in personalities. If you do, it may prevent thousands of arguments or misunderstandings.
Women offer unsolicited advice and give direction, and men usually don’t take advice very well. The woman thinks she is just trying to help, but the man thinks she doesn’t trust him to make the right decision.
When a woman disagrees with a man, he takes it as disapproval, and it ignites his defenses. Men only want advice after they have done everything they can do. Advice given too soon or too often causes him to lose his sense of power. He may become lazy or insecure.
Men are motivated and empowered when they feel needed. Women are motivated when they feel cherished.
Men are visual creatures; once an image is in their head, it’s hard to get it out. Women are more inclined to remember emotions or how something made them feel.
Seek understanding first, then speak.
Scripture: Proverbs 4:7
7 Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.
Here’s what I have to say —
Now as a woman, I can completely agree with this. This is all we are ever trying to do when it comes to helping our men. The other day, me and my man were having a conversation about this exact thing. Giving advice to each other is something we do but sometimes it is not always received well, not just on one end but both. We came to the conclusion that it all comes down to the way we think. He told me that when a man comes home from a long and hard day of work, he just wants to feel as though it is not all in vain. So when he’s out there working hard, dealing with ridiculous work demands, horrible bosses or whatever, when he comes home, he is coming to the one place where he expects to be respected, loved and encouraged.
When a man does something that a woman thinks is stupid, what is the first thing she does? She tells him why it was stupid and what he should have done instead. Then we put our two sense in without it even being asked for.
If I were to put myself in a man’s shoes, I could understand why that would be unappreciated. It’s not something that would make a man feel good. In fact, it’s rather emasculating. And a man can only function properly and provide like he is supposed to when he feels needed and respected, the same way a woman is able to provide like she is supposed to when she feels cherished and appreciated; which is a point that the devotional also made.
We have to be a loving partner to our men, not a burden. Remember ladies, it’s important to seek understanding first, then speak.♥
Courtesy of YouVersion Bible app & Joyce Meyer Ministries
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