This has been a busy week for Jada Pinkett-Smith. After making appearances for “Free Angela and All Other Political Prisoners”, she found time to sit down and talk with Marc Lamont Hill of Huff Post Live. Jada talked about her marriage, including rumors of an open relationship with Will, as well as how she feels about the media bullying her kids. In light of Magic Johnson’s son coming out earlier in the week and a prior Facebook post she wrote on women seeking out other women, she was also asked how she would react if Willow or Jaden were to come out.
On the most difficult part of being in a public, celebrity relationship:
“Sometimes it can be a bit difficult, only because people romanticize about your relationship. People know what it takes to have a relationship but they just think because you’re in Hollywood, it takes something different. They think it just works, it happens, it’s just magical. I think people don’t necessarily look at your relationship as a real relationship but that it’s like an ideal form of a relationship.”
On her & Will having an open marriage:
“I think people get that idea because Will and I are very relaxed with one another. I’ve always told Will, ‘You can do whatever you want as long as you can look at yourself in the mirror and be okay.’ Because at the end of the day, Will is his own man. I’m here as his partner, but he is his own man. He has to decide who he wants to be and that’s not for me to do for him. Or vice versa.”
“I wouldn’t call it cyber bullying anymore, it’s creating a ground for a prejudice viewpoint. It’s the idea that because someone is famous and a celebrity, it justifies why we can dehumanize anyone that’s a celebrity. We have to be very careful in thinking that you can justify a group of people a certain way because of something that they are. I want to make sure that we aren’t creating more breeding ground for prejudice viewpoints.”
On the media bullying her kids:
“I don’t worry about my kids, because they are in the house with me and their father. My kids are still allowed to be children so I don’t see them being affected in the same way as I see that’s happening with other young people. […] They don’t know anything about my children. Sometimes you have to leave room for people to project their shadows upon you. That’s what comes with the territory but when you have very high celebrities that are constantly being misrepresented, or the complete story isn’t told…and you think you can know these young people through a sound bite or a picture, and you can’t… you can’t know their complete story through a soundbite or picture. We have to be more responsible in the things that we say and how we approach what we consider news. We really have to be careful on how we define news and how we define journalism.”
On what it’s like being married to her:
“You would have to ask Will but I’m sure it’s not easy. I don’t think it’s easy to be married to anyone. You have to go in a relationship knowing, you are dedicating yourself to someone for the rest of your life, this is a life partnership. Will’s my best friend, I’m going to keep it real with you, even sometimes when the romance may go out, and you look over like, “You still here”, he’s my best friend. He’s been by my side during some of the most difficult parts of my life and that’s something you can never take away. Other things may change but one thing is for sure, I love him deeply and he is my best friend. And so you always have THAT as your foundation and there’s nothing that can change that. Nothing.”
On people who say that she pouts her kids in a position to be scrutinized:
“My kid are still allowed to be artists, they aren’t the breadwinner of the family. There’s not that paradigm shift. They aren’t the adult and they aren’t paying everyone’s bills. [When you are like a Justin Bieber] you become the figure of the family. It’s difficult. It puts a lot of pressure on that particular person to take on that responsibility at such a young age. That’s part of what the experience is but I do believe you can’t not fulfill your dreams or can not not go for it because you are concerned about what people think of you or concerned about the scrutiny. You are going to get scrutinized anyway. Right? So this is about preparing your children in a way that they can have anything. That’s the purpose. Not holding your kids back, or decreasing their power or giving them less because of what you think or how you think the world is gonna respond to them, but preparing them so they can have it all, whatever that all may mean for them.”
On if her kids were to come out:
“I would support. I just want my kids to be happy. As long as they’re happy. As long as they are living the lives that fulfill them. If something like that happened with my daughter or my son–if they decided an alternative lifestyle, by all means, just be happy. I’m not here to tell anyone what their happiness looks like, that is not my job.”
Kudos to Jada!